(highlight:: Putting Aside Your Presumptions and Making the Your Partner Feel Understood
Key takeaways:
• To resolve a conflict, one must listen to what the other person is saying and make it clear that they are listening.
• This is easier said than done, as often our presumptions about what the other person is thinking and feeling get in the way.
Transcript:
Speaker 1
And in a sense, that's how our initial conversations about the couch began. We would discuss what we liked or didn't like about the couch, and each of us would complete the other person sentences, because we were absolutely certain that we understood what was Going on in the other one's mind. The key part of that that was so unhelpful is the not allowing the perspectives to be talked about, to allow them to come out in a marriage, and for that matter, in any kind of relationship, To resolve a conflict involves putting aside one's presumptions about what the other person is thinking and feeling, even if those presumptions might be right, and instead really Listening to what the other person is saying, and then making it clear that one really is listening, and that became the solution to the couch problem. When we stopped interrupting each other and stopped talking over each other, and very clearly stated what each of us wanted to happen, we actually came to a very good agreement about It,)
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- marriage, assumptions, understanding, relationships,