Tips for Work-Life Balance

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2024-01-12 matt.might.net - Tips for Work-Life Balance

Book cover of "Tips for Work-Life Balance"

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Explicitly acknowledge priorities

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(highlight:: Start by listing your priorities in life.
If factors like "health", "happiness", or "family"
rank below professional goals, your long-term priorities
are not stable.
It is too easy to implicitly prioritize work
ahead of everything else.
If those inverted priorities persist, a crisis--injury/sickness,
depression or divorce--is inevitable.)
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Avoid workaholism

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(highlight:: "Work more, sleep less" people
tend to focus too much on the hours worked part of the equation.
The unit of work / hour part of the equation--productivity--is just
as (if not more) important.)
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(highlight:: When crunch time hits for a "work more; sleep less" individual,
he stresses and panics. He cannot throttle up on output.
He is at capacity.
When crunch time hits for a high-efficiency individual,
her output skyrockets, because she can ramp up the
hours worked part of the equation.)
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Avoid perfectionism

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(highlight:: It is good to use perfection as a guide, but recognize that it is unattainable.
Perfection is a process; not a destination.
Iterate toward perfection but launch once you pass "good enough.")
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Set and enforce boundaries

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(highlight:: Maintaining work-life balance require setting boundaries.
If necessary, it requires harshly enforcing those boundaries.)
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Avoid over-commitment

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(highlight:: It takes a few minutes
to entangle yourself in commitments that can take years to unwind.
Learn when and how to say "no."
If you're over-committed, say, "I'd really like to take on that task/role, but I'm concerned that with my current commitments, I might not be able to perform the this task to the high standards to which I hold myself."
Before you say "yes" to anything, sleep on it.
If you find yourself over-committed, start delegating, canceling, recusing
and refusing.)
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- [note::I need to internalize this.
e.g. I started project managing PHILLY TRUCE because I felt like it was a great opportunity and one I could easily exploit at the time (and frankly, I was slightly desperate for some project management experience because I thought - and perhaps still think - that's the only way I was going to get a job as a project manager).
While life is path-dependent and I did end up gaining value from the experience, I spent much more time on the project than I anticipated, which ultimately caused me stress, anxiety, and eventual burnout. Additionally, my involvement prevented me from having enough time to dedicate to things I am objectively more passionate about.
In hindsight, I took the opportunity for "the experience" (or rather, what I thought the experience was going to give me) and discounted my actual level of interest in the project and the kinds of people I would be collaborating with. These factors are incredibly important and yet, I ignored them due to a mindset of scarcity.]

Use a work-flow system

Communicate

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(highlight:: In a family or a relationship, every member needs to know the stress level
and work load of every other member.
A shared calendar system like Google calendar helps with
implicit communication of stress level.)
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(highlight:: I also created a web app for my wife that graphs my inbox size over time.
Any upward deviation indicates an increase in stress.)
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(highlight:: It is also important to maintain explicit, dispassionate communication of
stress level:
if you're stressed or becoming stressed, warn your family.
They may be able to adapt or help you compensate for short periods
if you communicate your needs.)
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(highlight:: Relying on telepathy is the most efficient way to
doom a good relationship.)
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- [note::What a hilarious way of phrasing this.]

Keep hobbies

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Even if you love your work (as many in my profession do, it is important
to have hobbies outside of work.
Even the best jobs create stress.
Hobbies are a way of letting stress go before it explodes)
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Exploit opportunity cost

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(highlight:: Decide on a list of essential personal tasks.
If you have a partner,
split them up.
Each should claim preferred tasks.
For the remaining unwanted tasks,
divide them evenly or consider hiring someone
to do them.
For every task, ask whether it is worth your time
to do it, given how else you could spend that time.)
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Continuously adapt

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(highlight:: Recognize that achieving work-life balance is a never-ending process.
Don't treat the balance in "work-life balance" like a noun.
Treat it like a verb.)
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- [note::Wow - this is great wisdom. "Work-life balance is a verb".
It's like a PID loop - no matter what you do, you're never going to match the setpoint (achieve work-life balance). You just continually take small steps in the right direction, based on a number of inputs (your body, brain, stress level, other's observations, etc).]