I Am Already 32 Years Old and I Still Have No Idea of What I Should for a Career?

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(highlight:: There is no 'should' get rid of that mentality. 
Secondly, read 'Mans search for meaning' by Viktor Frankl. Google it if you think it is an idle suggestion. You can read it in an afternoon and it will blow your mind. 
The crux of it is this: don't ask 'what am I supposed to do?' or ' what is the point of my life'. Everybody is different and just like there is no one perfect move in chess as every situation requires a different solution, there is no one perfect purpose for everybody. Hell even your own purpose to your own life if you had one would change daily depending on your needs at the time. 
Your life is whatever you make of it. You decide what purpose or meaning your life has simply by deciding it is so and making choices to that effect. Don't ask the universe 'what am I supposed to do with my life?' instead ask of yourself 'what am I going to do with my life'.
So you are 32 and you have no idea what to do as a career. I'm 33, and in the same boat, welcome to the club. 
I see it like this: you are at a buffet looking at the vast array of foods before you. Everybody else seems to be eating and enjoying their meals but you are stuck in indecision. You don't know what you like and if you don't know what you like, how can you commit to eating a whole meal of it right? Not to mention the ever present fear that you may pick the wrong thing.
You are asking yourself 'what should I eat?' or rather 'what am I supposed to eat?' as if there is a right answer. 
Some people are born with a talent or a goal, in this case they have a taste for a specific food so they don't even think about it at the buffet table, they grab it and tuck in. Lucky them. 
Others like you don't know what they like so they freeze, trying to figure out which food is perfect for them. I did that too. But hesitating won't solve this issue.
There are two problems here. The first is the false idea that there is somehow a perfect food, or that you somehow need the best food or your meal isn't worth eating. There is no perfect career, it doesn't exist. Even those lucky few who know what career that want and even achieve it... may end up hating their jobs, it happens all the time. 
Get this idea of perfect out of your mind because perfect is vague, it lacks context. Instead look at what you want out of a career, don't as yet focus on the actual job or title, instead think about stuff like how much money do you really need to be happy? Do you want to work with people how about teams? Do you want responsibility or do you want to be more laid back? 
Once you have an idea of what kind of financial emotional and other rewards you want from your career, then look at things you enjoy, or are interested in, or aspire to. Label everything that comes to mind. 
Then start cross referencing this list, so you need 50k a year and you like working with kids but not in a classroom? How about teaching special needs kids on a one to one basis? The goal of this is not to say you only have one potential career path, quite the opposite. The goal here is to realise there are likely dozens if not hundreds of potential things you could look into.
To bring it back to the buffet, define what you want out of your food. You establish rough criteria because right now your are overwhelmed with too many options, and you are labouring under the false idea that there is one or two or only a few right choices. So set yourself some rough criteria first, this will mean you stop looking for the 'perfect' food and instead you're looking for something ' nutritious, salty, low in fat and colourful' ( just an example lol). That gives you something to work with, now you look at the buffet and notice that where before you only saw a mass of 'not perfect' you now see a whole load of ' fits my needs'. 
The second problem is that you can't solve your issue by hesitating. You can't learn what foods you like and what careers you may be interested in by watching others do them from the sidelines. The internet is amazing, but you can't experience life through a flat screen, you gotta get out there and breath it ( maybe not in a pandemic) touch it, feel it, kick it around a bit. 
You only learn what foods you like by trying bits of new foods. Youtube is amazing and I love cooking shows, but you can watch all the documentaries in the world on a food, but you won't know if you like it until you try it. 
And if you don't like what you tried, great you learned something, now take that knowledge and apply it to your next choice to better inform your decision. Keep doing this and you will get closer and closer to where you want to be. Or better yet, go at this with an open mind, and see where it takes you, maybe you learn you love something you never expected and you so something totally unexpected. 
Now here is where the metaphor breaks down and this is the reason why I edited this answer. You can't just jump around careers like trying finger food at a buffet, that is obvious. The stakes are high and training is expensive. But you can research the crap out of any job or industry that interests you. Chances are you don't even know what kind of jobs exist in a field until you do a ton of research. But once you have an interest and you have done your homework, reach out to somebody in that field and ask questions. You would be amazed at what you can learn by just saying hello. 
You can volunteer, try courses at school, do digital courses. Do anything you can to get closer to the jobs that interest you. Be shameless about it. 
But here is the hard truth. We cant all do or be anything we want to be, life is not fair. That is a mantra to live by, life is not fair, it's not meant to be. 
So when you write down what you want out of a career. Write down all the interests and possible careers you could do. Go crazy with this bit, this is meant to be fun. But then look at your list and look at what is actually possible. If you want to be an astronaut, but your country has no space program and your are 40 years old working in a corner shop, I'm sorry but no amount of positive thinking and motivational videos are going to make that happen. 
You need to be honest, fair and realistic. Do you want to be a doctor, but have no money to study and no option of getting any? Well that may be difficult/impossible. You need to look at your list and strike off anything that is physically impossible. If in doubt do this exercise with a friend. 
The idea is that at the end of this you should have a list of potential career choices that are both attainable and fulfill your financial and emotional needs (and any other desires you write down). 
The point of this whole diatribe of mine is to say, drop perfectionism. Really think about what you want out of a career and realise that there are usually many more ways to success and happiness than we ever think possible. Indecision is a killer and you can be so focused on trying to avoid choosing the wrong thing, that you miss out on a world of potential 'right' things. 
And I must also add, I'm not saying don't have/follow your dreams if you have them, I'm saying along with fear of picking the wrong thing, the next biggest mistake you can make (by which I mean I made) is sacrificing a hundred great opportunities at your feet by chasing a one in a million chance at a dream. By all means chase your dreams, but try to do it while building a solid plan B too. 
So my advice is once you have a list of potential avenues for exploration, or shall we say an educated idea of what on the buffet table fits your needs. Get stuck in. There are no wrong decisions as long as you learn from them. 
There are no wrong answers from here on out. You are not shooting blind because you used your criteria to make sure all of your opportunities are fulfilling your needs so what you do now is all experience. The goal is to learn from everything and use that information to inform all your future decisions, just like you would do with food.
You see at a buffet your looking for a meal, and yeah some people have the whole set out career that all fits nicely. I tried that, I got the scholarship, got my dream job in my)
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