I end up saying this often but it is just so true and people need to hear it. People typically don't just change. They only change their ways when a situation become sufficiently uncomfortable to prompt the change. To me, people with ADHDers may be able to "goldfish magic brain" their problems away out of sight - this I feel sometimes makes their threshold for "uncomfortable enough for change" far beyond what a neurotypical might expect.Smoker's may only quit when they literally cannot afford it or they have something they want more than smoking. Alcoholics frequently only seek recovery after they hit rock bottom (of course rock bottom can be subjective).So if you want change you have to alter the status quo. Whether or not your partner responds to that change is up to them entirely. In short, you need to stop over-functioning, you need to allow them to feel natural consequences. You need to be prepared though that your partner may choose to not change - in that event you need to be prepared for what that means for your family.
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I end up saying this often but it is just so true and people need to hear it. People typically don't just change. They only change their ways when a situation become sufficiently uncomfortable to prompt the change. To me, people with ADHDers may be able to "goldfish magic brain" their problems away out of sight - this I feel sometimes makes their threshold for "uncomfortable enough for change" far beyond what a neurotypical might expect.Smoker's may only quit when they literally cannot afford it or they have something they want more than smoking. Alcoholics frequently only seek recovery after they hit rock bottom (of course rock bottom can be subjective).So if you want change you have to alter the status quo. Whether or not your partner responds to that change is up to them entirely. In short, you need to stop over-functioning, you need to allow them to feel natural consequences. You need to be prepared though that your partner may choose to not change - in that event you need to be prepared for what that means for your family.
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