It is very common for people with ADHD to struggle with their sex life. There's tons of research, podcasts, etc that will explain it in much better detail than I can but, but basically, some of the ways it manifests...ADHD can make transitions very difficult (moving from one activity to another). It's a kind of block in ADHD-ers brains, where they avoid sex instinctively without even understanding a) that they're doing it or b) why they're doing it. It's just the executive function impairment showing up in a resistance to making a change from one activity to another.Also, being in your own head is something many ADHD-ers struggle with (I know, duh!) The constant dialog in your brain can absolutely ruin a potentially amazing experience, whether its you thinking of unrelated things like work or chores or an argument with your parent, or focused on the sex itself... "is this good for him/her? Am I hard enough? How long has it been? Am I gonna cum too quickly? Am I gonna cum at all?" The list goes on. This can obviously make it really hard to stay present and enjoy, creating a stressful situation you/your spouse may just instinctively avoid altogether.If you or your spouse have ADHD, do some reading about the potential link here. It's such a tricky dance because ADHD itself affects everyone differently, as do meds. For some, the meds increase their sex drive and for others it kills it. Either way, knowledge is power and understanding yourself better is never a bad thing.
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In addition to the things you’ve listed with transitions and “in your head-ness,” many people with ADHD have a much, much more difficult time transitioning from dopamine fueled NRE sex to LTR sex because they are dopamine deficient. The same sex with the same person over and over and over (or really anything over and over and over) stops giving them those big dopamine hits, and therefore becomes uninteresting. There’s just other things to do that sound more fulfilling and fun to them once NRE wears off.It can simply be really difficult or impossible for someone with ADHD to force themself to perform an activity (especially one they’re expected to perform repeatedly, over and over, with the same person, forever) that isn’t giving them the dopamine blast their brain craves.ADHD has also been shown to cause issues orgasming, especially for women- even with prolonged stimulation. (Which adds to the “this isn’t giving me dopamine and I don’t want to do it anymore” thing.)
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It is very common for people with ADHD to struggle with their sex life. There's tons of research, podcasts, etc that will explain it in much better detail than I can but, but basically, some of the ways it manifests...ADHD can make transitions very difficult (moving from one activity to another). It's a kind of block in ADHD-ers brains, where they avoid sex instinctively without even understanding a) that they're doing it or b) why they're doing it. It's just the executive function impairment showing up in a resistance to making a change from one activity to another.Also, being in your own head is something many ADHD-ers struggle with (I know, duh!) The constant dialog in your brain can absolutely ruin a potentially amazing experience, whether its you thinking of unrelated things like work or chores or an argument with your parent, or focused on the sex itself... "is this good for him/her? Am I hard enough? How long has it been? Am I gonna cum too quickly? Am I gonna cum at all?" The list goes on. This can obviously make it really hard to stay present and enjoy, creating a stressful situation you/your spouse may just instinctively avoid altogether.If you or your spouse have ADHD, do some reading about the potential link here. It's such a tricky dance because ADHD itself affects everyone differently, as do meds. For some, the meds increase their sex drive and for others it kills it. Either way, knowledge is power and understanding yourself better is never a bad thing.
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In addition to the things you’ve listed with transitions and “in your head-ness,” many people with ADHD have a much, much more difficult time transitioning from dopamine fueled NRE sex to LTR sex because they are dopamine deficient. The same sex with the same person over and over and over (or really anything over and over and over) stops giving them those big dopamine hits, and therefore becomes uninteresting. There’s just other things to do that sound more fulfilling and fun to them once NRE wears off.It can simply be really difficult or impossible for someone with ADHD to force themself to perform an activity (especially one they’re expected to perform repeatedly, over and over, with the same person, forever) that isn’t giving them the dopamine blast their brain craves.ADHD has also been shown to cause issues orgasming, especially for women- even with prolonged stimulation. (Which adds to the “this isn’t giving me dopamine and I don’t want to do it anymore” thing.)
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